Friends R 4 Wat?

Friends are the ones to whom we share things that we generally can’t even think of speaking to our parents. Friendship is all about how and what difference one makes in others life. You are blessed if you have at least one good and reliable friend around you.

For any fun
For any help
For any flattery
For any company
For any redirection
For any motivation

For any of the above we completely depend on our friends. In general we are not comfortable seeking for help or opening up our feelings to every one, we feel secured only in few hands and those become our friends in the short or long run. One would not wait for their friend to ask for help rather one would volunteer themselves to serve them. When you are down, you feel good when your friend boosts your confidence level and gears you up.

Definition of friendship has changed a lot these days. You can find friendship based on either the same status, religion, nationality, educational ranking or interest. If we rewind back to 17th century friendship between Lord Krishna and Sudama they just had love and deep understanding of their relationship. Sudama's needs were totally understood by Krishna even when Sudama had not stated his situation explicitly.

My mother quite often insists it is better to manage life with what you have than borrowing/seeking things from others under any adverse situations. I most of the time follow my mother’s words blindly but I always felt inside that she was wrong.

In today's lunch we had a conversation about being responsible as an individual and when and when not to depend on friends. Everyone felt to allow one of my friends to handle his stuff individually but I felt inside, he should be given a feeling that we are with him even, if he had committed a small mistake. To make someone realize that he has done a blunder can be handled in a smooth manner rather than making him feel that he has been cut off from his friends.

Now applying the formula of Krishna Sudama's friendship will not work in this century where even after years you can’t afford to call your friends for help. Undoubtedly now I accredit my mother’s principles for the fact not everyone loves to help people be it be even your close friends. The secret for strong friendship in the current decade lies only when you reduce your dependency, expectations and become more self-reliant.